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Dating is a skill

Dating is a skill, which improves with experience. A healthy relationship is built on closeness, safety and trust. You don’t have to feel nervous or be afraid of not being good enough for your partner. Both of you feel comfortable being yourselves in each other’s company and neither one is trying to put pressure or force their loved one into something they don’t want to do. Every relationship has its ups and downs. It’s normal to feel insecure from time to time in your first relationships because you don’t have much experience of it yet. Sometimes relationships can feel challenging if you and your partner have very different needs or expectations of your time together. That can cause disappointment, anger and arguments. Every couple argues every now and then. That said, it is important that the arguments don’t turn uncontrollable.

Tyttö ja poika seisovat kadulla vastakkain ja keskustelevat.
Tyttö ja poika istuvat kaatuneen puun rungolla vierekkäin. Kuvassa näkyvät heidän jalkansa.

Sometimes it’s hard to know what is not ok in a relationship. Violence can be hard to recognise. You should suspect your relationship might be violent if for example you don’t see your friends or avoid spending time on your own because you are afraid that it will make your partner angry or jealous. Emotional violence can also mean you feel you are not good enough because your partner is often mean to you. Over time abusive behaviour can also lead to physical violence. The Dating Without Violence Project provides free and confidential support for boys and young men aged 13 to 29. If you have constant arguments in your relationship or either fear or have experienced dating violence, please contact us. You can anonymously call our helpline or chat with our workers. It is also possible to contact one of our staff members and arrange either a video call or a meeting at our office in Helsinki. We can also come to meet you at your chosen location if you wish that.

Helpline

You can contact our helpline or chat anonymously. Our helpline number is 050-380 6755. It is open on Mondays from 1 to 3 pm and Thursdays from 3 to 5 pm.

Chat

Our free chat will open as soon as possible. It is open on Tuesdays between 1 and 3 pm and Thursdays between 3 and 5 pm. You can contact us anonymously and all conversations are confidential.

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Individual mentoring

You can talk to our workers online or face to face. The mentoring meetings are free of charge. Contact our workers and book an appointment.

Staff introductions and contact details:

Hankkeessa työskentelevällä Heikillä on tummat hiukset ja musta t-paita.

Heikki Korhonen

Violence worker
050-384 6725
heikki.korhonen@seurusteluailmanvakivaltaa.fi

I have worked for several years as a youth worker in various cities, including youth centers, schools, camps, youth exchanges, and events. My strengths are in meeting and communication skills. The most rewarding part of working with people is being able to help others. Working with people gives me energy and keeps my mind active. In my free time, I enjoy reading and playing basketball.

Hankkeessa työskentelevällä Anskulla on kiharat hiukset ja hän siristää silmiään auringossa.

Niina Anneli ”Ansku” Kettunen

Violence worker
050-384 5844
niina.kettunen@seurusteluailmanvakivaltaa.fi

Hi! I’m Ansku and have done youth work at non-profit organisations and schools for nearly 20 years. I am also a mother of four young adults. I have a lot of experience of violence and trauma mentoring with both young people and adults. Violence causes insecurity, fear and helplesness.It is difficult to think of solutions alone but with help recovery is possible, violence can be stopped and things can be solved. My favourite thing about my job is finding solutions and enabling change. In my freetime I do weightlifting and love cooking.

Hankkeessa työskentelevällä Jukalla on vaaleat, lyhyet hiukset, parta ja musta paita.

Jukka Lampinen

Violence worker, project coordinator
050-384 8671
jukka.lampinen@seurusteluailmanvakivaltaa.fi

I am a father of three young adult children and have been involved in various forms of helping work throughout my career. My professional background focuses on crisis support for young people and work related to domestic violence. Long-term commitment to violence prevention has made working on this theme feel natural to me. I enjoy working with texts, but the most valuable lessons come from face-to-face interactions with people who have sought help for themselves. Thank you to all of them! In my free time, I enjoy activities such as kickboxing and photography.